Written by Business Motivational Speaker Derek Clark
Dragging your personal life into work is one of those major business “Don’ts” that
we all know in principle, but often have a hard time practicing. The ease of spreading
negativity seems especially true of the workplace. Think of the door to your workplace
as having a guard station. But instead of checking in your weapons or other contraband,
the guards insist you relinquish your pessimism, nay saying, and bad attitude.
Imagine yourself sitting at your desk, personal problems consuming all your energy and
attention. Let’s get hypothetical, and pretend your life reads like the lyrics to the saddest
country song ever written. Your son is in prison and your daughter in rehab. Your spouse
wants a divorce and says they never wanted to get married in the first place. You have $100
in your bank account, your credit cards are maxed, your home is in foreclosure, and the
bank wants to repossess your car. Your dog had surgery and the vet is sending your bill to
collections. Your mother is sick and your dad is leaving her for another woman. Your brother
just got a DUI and your sister just joined a cult and gave them all of her money. To top it off,
all this was sprung on you the week before Thanksgiving, and now you have no idea who’s going to cook the turkey. And frankly, you’re starting to feel like your turkey is already cooked.
Now your head is swirling, the world is crashing in around you, and you’re wondering how you can possibly put a smile on your face. You just want to crawl in a hole, disappear, drown in your
tears and never return. Yet through it all, you have your daily commitment of going to work.
You have to earn a living. But with your mind tangled up with so many distractions, problems
pulling your thoughts in every direction, your head is full of noise and you can’t focus.
Ask yourself, what can you do about any of these troubles right now? Most likely, absolutely
nothing! Even supposing you can, how are you going to justify spending time on the phone
trying to put fires out on your boss’s dime, or texting when nobody’s looking? Will losing
your job or being put on probation help solve your problems? I should think not.
As a man who has seen what kinds of things adversely affect a company from every angle— entry- level employee, supervisor, founder; top, bottom, and middle—this principle can never be stressed enough. We all have troubles in our personal lives, stresses that are difficult to shrug off when we set out for work. But putting on your work clothes should be like a superhero putting on his costume. You are becoming your alter ego; your costume and cape are impervious to bullets and flames; you must put on a brave face to go fight villainy.
Even Superman had a lot of personal problems. In a way, he was a foster child who never got to
know his parents. He was in love with a woman whom he had to lie to constantly. He was
sometimes burdened by his role as a savior to mankind. But you didn’t see him carrying this
heavy baggage along with him when it was time to go duke it out with Lex Luther. Take care of business first, and save the rest for later.
Abraham Maslow was a psychologist who put together a pyramid, So our player decided to stay safe inside and have some fun with the each level representing a human need that, when met, allowed the individual to concentrate on fulfilling his or her next level of needs. His idea was that a person had to settle one aspect of their life before being able to concentrate on another. At the bottom are basic things like food, water and shelter. Just above that are employment and property. Still further up the pyramid are human relationships. Maslow demonstrated that for you to have the good life, you needed to have your bases covered and your basics taken care of. So don’t take employment for granted! It’s the base upon which your mighty pyramid is built!
Written by Motivational Speaker and Trainer Derek Clark